Fear and self-centeredness has crippled us into forming genuine friendship in this era. We have heard countless stories about people hurting others; we live in a society that encourages isolation rather than promote forming a bond with our community. We tend to our gadget to ‘’connect’’ to people virtually which defeats the purpose to engage with one another face to face.
As a God fearing individual, we ought to have a godly community of friends who can help us on this earthly journey. It is also wise to ask God for friends who fear him, friends who will put aside their daily routine to seek God for you and fight violently in prayer for your situation, friends who will fast, pray, cry out to God on your behalf.
When we look into Jesus’s life, he had friends. He took time to be in fellowship with the disciples.
What are the qualities you should seek in a friend?
Psalms 119: 63 ‘’ I am a friend to anyone who fears you, anyone who obeys your commandments’’ Does that person fears and obey the Lord’s commands? Do their lives mirror one of a true follower of Christ? Self-centered or Christ-centered? Worldly seeker or Kingdom seeker?
Psalms 15:3 ‘’ Those who refuse to gossip or harm their neighbors or speak evil of their friends.’’ The Lord does not like a gossiping tongue, beware of those who do so, you will fall into their despise spirit before you know it. If each time, you pick up the phone or you got a text from a particular person gossiping, refrain from responding, you can pray for that person or talk to them kindly regarding that behavior. If they refuse to depart from being a gossiper, it would be wise for you to distance yourself.
Proverbs 27:17 ‘’As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.’’ You need friends who can encourage you, make you stronger in the Lord and vice versa. Any type of fellowship that involves Christ will birth a beautiful blessing. Spend time with your friends even on a monthly basis; God created us to help each other, let us unite in harmony and sharpen one another with the word of God.
Proverbs 18: 24 ‘’ There are ‘’friends’’ who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother. ‘’ Who is by your side when you need prayer, encouragement, a faith booster, a word, a smile, a hug, a pat on the back? Who lend you their time? You want genuine friends who will intentionally buy groceries for you when you do not have anything in your fridge. A friend who prays for you, fast, cry out in tears for you, all intentionally.
1 John 4: ‘’Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other.’’ Regardless of our situation, we need a friend who loves genuinely like Jesus. Not perfect, but genuine.
1 Corinthians 2:6 ‘’ Yet when I am among mature believers I do speak with words of wisdom, but not the kind of wisdom that belongs to this world or to the rulers of this world, who are soon forgotten.’’ Beloved, we need mature friends. We need people who have the knowledge to distinguish between foolishness and wisdom.
Beloved, seek the Lord for Godly friendship and be open minded to receive that person once God brings them into your life. Be friend of those who like peace. Once you have those friends, take time out of your busy schedule to spend time with them, meet them at your house, plan vacations together, have fun together, pray and fast together. Put your devices down and have a genuine face to face with your friends. Tell them they are precious to you. Love them like Jesus love you. Invest in one another for God’s glory.
You are beautiful,